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Sophisticated opinion rarely gets beyond the elementary observation that masculinity is a social construct, or a set of many such constructs. As for unsophisticated opinion, it is a dank cellar most impressively represented by the Canadian academic Jordan Peterson, who bangs the table for logic and reason while basing much of his thought on the ideas of a discredited occultist.

Beneath Peterson, deeper in the cellar, are the vitamin-hawking conspiracy theorists, rape apologists, and Nazis of YouTube, whose pronouncements on masculinity eerily combine the commonsensical Sex Fayetteville help needed the obscene: one video to tell you how to tie a Windsor knot, another to tell you how to beat a restraining order.

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You learn this in elementary school and never forget it. No wonder, as we age, that we ignore each other, let our friendships wither, cancel plans. And no wonder many of us have failed to see grabby men as a serious social problem for women, when an American boyhood consists of little else but unorganized combat drills, unwanted invasions of personal territory.

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It was a greeting. Protect and Serve The proponents of traditional masculinity scorn many failings in modern men—our failure to do enough manual labor, hold back tears, grip things, stand up straight with our shoulders back, and any of other failings.

But most of all, they lament our failure to embrace this protective role, which further suggests its centrality to the whole construct. He makes an issue of some matter, engages his honor, and takes charge of the situation either as a Online discreet Huntsville friend finder Aberdeen or in an emergency.

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Simply being a good person is hard enough without the additional burden of being a mythical creature. See L.

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Since everybody—even heiresses and Habsburg princelings—has at least one real thing to worry about, such talk is fatuous, but it tells us how far these men have lost sight of themselves, their lives. Most of all, we feel like a bad joke.

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They turn sullen and grumpy, like people out of a Frank Miller comic. Or they turn defensive, a trait I cannot really blame in anyone, in a society so bitterly competitive—I particularly cannot fault it in men of color, poor men, and immigrants, whose masculinity subjects them simultaneously to actual serious threat from white men and to the feminist scrutiny that they, along with the rest of us, warrant.

But defensiveness has a well-known tendency to make us behave in ways that are laughable.

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